Family

A speaker at church mentioned Ozzy and Harriet as an example of American parents. Upon noticing the blank stares coming from the audience and noting he had just "aged himself" he asked: "What would be a couple nowadays?". Someone was quick to mention Jon and Kate. Gross.

The Adventures of Ozzie and Harriet was a sitcom based on the real-life Nelson family which epitomized 1950's family life and the nuclear family. The ideal family propagated by the media included a hard-working father of integrity who honored his wife and who helped guide his sons through the difficulty of adolescents. While I understand that this is far more ideal then real-life I simply want to point out that the prominent picture of American family life shown in the media was actually what the Bible intended. Love, leadership, and a commitment to integrity and doing the right thing.

Jon and Kate we're married when they were in their mid-20's, college educated and financially stable. However, if one were to watch the show (and trust me...I love this show...those kids are precious) they would see a nagging wife and a passive husband. There was little teamwork witnessed between the couple. Now after only about a decade of marriage they are getting a divorce. There are now 8 children under 10 who live in a broken home. Jon already has a new girlfriend (who is only 22 by the way) and a NYC apartment a state apart from his 8 children. The divorce also came after months of speculation of both Jon and Kate's infidelity. This was the couple that came to mind for what American family's are...sick.

Is there any hope for our generation?

This weekend I got to stand in my best friend's wedding. The man she is marrying (Seth) comes from a beautiful family. The reason for this is so evidently their devotion to God and submission to the way God designed families. The were constantly serving each other and it was so clear that Seth's father played an integral role in leading their family and did it through seeking God. His mother and father were affectionate and it was clear that their children looked to them as a model of relationships. Seeing this family and understanding why they were the way there were gave me hope for our generation.

That hope comes from Christ. Yes, American families are broken mainly because people are broken. If we turn to Christ to cover this brokenness and seek His will in our life I think marriages and families still have a place in this world.

Someone asked once asked me "Why would you want to wake up next to the same person everyday for the rest of your life?" They thought the idea of marriage was trapping and limiting. I beg to differ. I found this writing in my journal...and I have no idea where it came from...I think it was a random forward sometime but I think this sums it up:

"Why? Because when you say I do it’s a vow that means forever. Because marriage is honored by God, created by God, and is a beautiful union between two people that love each other with genuine love. Why would I want to wake up to that person every day? Because I wouldn't be able to live without his smile. Because I don't think I could go on without his encouragement. Because his character makes me sit back in awe. Because I would forget how to laugh without his humor. Because his patience is as deep and wide as the sea. Because when I'm in the room I'm the only one he is looking at. Because he loves to grow in knowledge and wisdom. Because he loves children and they love him. Because he has a superman complex and wants to save the world. Because he is a servant of others and shares the love of Christ. Because his eyes say more then his mouth. Because his laugh is the best sound in the world. I could go on but I'll end with this--because love lasts forever. So as long as I am living, that would be why I want to wake up to him everyday for the rest of my life till the day I die. Because as the Bible says "Now abides these three: faith, hope, and love. But the greatest of these is love"

I think that is a picture of what it's meant to be...nothing about looks, money, sex, or similar hobbies. All about character, God, and love. I pray my generation would be full of people willing to step up and live a life devoted to God that gives hope to the idea of family.

Post-MAC life...

I'm on summer vacation! For the first time since summer 2007...and that was no summer of relaxation. Its been 1 month since I've been enjoying this miracle cultivated by no-longer active farm schedules...but I'm still so grateful!

What do you do with yourself after a year of 20 hour days?

1. Sleep. I'm averaging at least nine hours a night...sometimes 11. I was averaging 5 to 6. It is amazing to me the cognitive abilities and emotional stability that has returned to me.

2. Clean. Before summer it was actually safer to put shoes ON when entering my apartment. The floor was that disgusting. Now the dishes are done, you can see flat surfaces, and the carpet no longer initiates my gag reflex.

3. Cook. I forgot that you can be creative and have fun in the kitchen. Food for the past year has been lean cuisine and whatever I can shove in my mouth fast enough to make it to class on time. I've rediscovered meat and fresh vegetables. Mmmmmm...

4. Play. Soccer has re-entered my life as well as the Tour de France, ESPN, and whatever various sports possibilities pop up. I've actually run 4 out of 7 times this week. My mind and body are both happy...so are my pants.

5. Nothing. No, I haven't run out of a topic for number 5. I have, however, been able to enjoy moments in which I have nothing I need to do...no grading, no papers, no chores. I have seen sunsets, had wine with friends, and been at the lake with my family. None of these things has increased my productivity, but all of them have recovered my sanity.

t-minus 27 days until I depart for the real-world.

Moving Madness...

I've come to the conclusion that it is really tricky to figure out how to move across state lines. Here are some things that I am certain will pop up in a blog entry in a few months...

1. Is it a good idea to sign a lease for an apartment you have never seen?
Maybe it will turn out to be really convenient...maybe it will turn out to be terrible. Based on my current apartment I have a good shot at this being really convenient. I really only have a fear of bugs.

2. How directionally challenged am I?
Let's hope I can get around for awhile. There will be a few major disasters. I will be documenting them here...so get ready.

3. How much can one person hate/loath/dread/avoid at all costs looking like an idiot?
There are going to be A LOT of those moments as I try to figure out living alone. Hopefully there won't be more then one per day and the men in my life are prepared for a barrage of phone calls relating to plugs, fuses, bugs, broken sinks, and how to set up TV and cable. Let's hope the car holds out for at least sixth months before I need to address those problems...I have no clue what goes on under that hood.

4. How does independence work?
I really like my space and I really like being able to control everything about my personal living space. I'm ecstatic for an adventure and WAY over living in college (read: crappy) apartments. However, I also really like my friends and the boy is amazing...the excitement reading over leaving them is so far in the negative its about to hit the other side. Character growth, right? I'll be honest though...I have no fear when it comes to conquering cranky utility and bill people who will inevitably mess something up.

5. Do I have a grown up job?
O yea...the whole point of this is that I'm working. I'm sure that will be ridiculous...I can't even imagine what that is going to be like.

It's going to be an interesting year. My goal is to blog at least a little bit everyday. Wildness like this needs to be documented!